Uhhh, what the fuck?
business insider is a great place to find unhinged screeds
Ohh… so it’s not about getting insider information on businesses but about getting into other people’s business. Got it.
idk, this one doesn’t seem that unhinged in the grand scheme of things. Like obviously the behavior was unacceptable, but I think its a position many pretty reasonable people could find themselves in.
Nah this is unhinged, and deeply controlling behaviour. If someone is checking your location constantly and giving you grief for every difference in reported vs actual location, then you’re forced to give full account of your whereabouts at all times and justify your destinations.
But nobody was doing that, in this case? There was no mention of ‘giving grief’.
The husband voluntarily shared his location for practical reasons, a few times she happened to see he was stopped at a bar or a fast-food place instead of work where he claimed, and that was a weird phenomenon that impacted her trust in him. She realised she was getting too obsessed looking at his location. They later divorced for entirely unrelated reasons.
This isn’t really that wacky.
But nobody was doing that, in this case? There was no mention of ‘giving grief’.
True but this is only one side of the story
There was no mention of ‘giving grief’.
There was definitely the implication. She said he wouldn’t admit to going to get fast food. That means she gave him grief over it, after catching him in the “lie”
Maybe we have different ideas of “giving grief”, but inquiring about where someone was does not amount to it in my mind.
I think you can read between the lines. This lady was literally tracking her husband constantly and confronting him about his whereabouts.
saying this was “unhinged” and “a screed” to me implies that the whole scenario, and the writer, are both in some way unreasonable and that how she reacted was completely beyond the pale.
sharing location access, though I don’t love it, has become pretty normalized.
catching your husband in an already struggling marriage in a lie would tend to make a person suspicious. you might even start keeping a closer eye out for other lies. This woman got way too invested in that, obsessed with checking it, and openly acknowledges that it was unhealthy and bad, and probably contributed to their divorce.
Bad (but relatively normal for the scenario) behavior does not an unhinged screed make
Foucault must be bussin in his grave.
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This is everyone in the suburbs. My relatives send their kids to a summer camp where the main draw is a daily proof of life and frequent check ins and having an app to monitor the kids. Look, I’m all for safety (no really I am, more on this later), but it really seems to be more about the social media aspect of it, and removing any chance for kids to disconnect from parents socially even temporarily.
I’m glad he divorced his paranoid stalker of a wife. He just wanted to relax and have a beer after work at the brewery without telling his wife once, and she turned it into all this nonsense. Then she stalked his location constantly and made a big deal about him getting fast food without telling her once. Imagine being trapped in a marriage with such a controlling wife that you can’t even go to McDonalds or have a beer after work without them freaking out. Nightmare scenario.
Not long ago if you left your house you were unreachable. In fact, the only way someone was reachable was if they were home or at work and had a phone there. Imagine that, just not knowing where and how people were at all times.
thinking of going back to that for myself, genuinely
I did it for some time back in like 2011 or so; I used a dumbphone as a daily driver and only took calls on it and a landline in the place I was staying at the time. Nothing about my life got noticeably worse and instead I just read books a lot more. I did miss map navigation a lot, though, which lead to me begrudgingly going back to smartphones and ‘relapsing’ in a way. I don’t think we need to be that intense but I think a lot of us can massively simplify our digital presence and not miss a whole lot.
edit to say that covid also honestly complicates this a ton for me personally and a lot of the more vulnerable population since I/we pretty much only exist digitally until society collectively gets our heads out of our asses about all that…but I do still think its worth thinking about what you really need and want out of it. Even in my case I can and do unplug frequently.
I was a kid in these times. Genuinely miss it!
I’m here just thinking how permanently having your GPS enabled to broadcast your location might obliterate your phone’s battery
It doesn’t necessarily do that.
Can you explain more? I don’t doubt you since I’m speaking from a hunch but I would like to know more.
I have shared location on maps and it only reports back sometimes, like you might see that the last reported location is 20 minutes old or something. Also I don’t think they only use GPS these days, I think its that, but also local wireless networks, and location data based on your daily habits (i.e. you go to work every day, so if we see your work wifi, you’re probably at work). All of this put together doesn’t really kill battery life anymore.
Any idea if this is because the phone was not able to get the precise location to share? I have done this too but it was on a road trip and I didn’t get good coverage at many points.
Assuming you aren’t going hiking in some remote place where you could end up somewhere with shitty sky visibility (for GNSS satellites), it’s pretty hard not to get a decent position. Even cheap GNSS receivers can get like 1.2m RMS positioning with just 1 band.
I can really only speculate, but my running theory (and I must emphasize, I am really pulling this out of my ass), is that the location updating stuff doesn’t trigger while your phone isn’t being used (i.e. you leave your phone in your bag all day, it doesn’t do much location updating, but if you are browsing Hexbear on it all day, it updates more frequently).
The reason I think this is because I’ve noticed on days I’ve been really busy at work, my shared location doesn’t seem to get updated as much (not that it matters given I’m in the same place). Honestly power settings and if apps can run in the background seems to be very inconsistent across different phones and I swear it doesn’t work 90% of the time so I might just be seeing patterns that don’t exist.
