Play the NYT wordle, mini crossword, connections for the day. I have some small simple games that can be stopped at any time. My most played ones are cake sort, water sort, sudoku and sometimes minesweeper. Also scroll lemmy sometimes, it’s small enough that it doesn’t take long to see everything that is new, so there’s no risk of getting sucked in for long

Out of curiosity, is the soup similar?

From Almeirim in Portugal, there’s “sopa da pedra”, translates to “soup of the rock”. It has several kinds of meat, beans, potato, and it’s usually eaten with bread (some say even a specific local bread type, but I’m not picky on that). It used to come with a stone in it traditionally, but for higiene reasons restaurants are not allowed to anymore. Some people at home still do it, I believe.

With it there is an old tale:

There was once a poor friar that was traveling. Once it came time to rest, he knocked on someone’s door and asked for their hospitality in exchange for a soup. His hosts let him in and they see the friar pulling an old smooth stone from his pocket and putting it in a pot, along with water.

“Some seasoning would make this soup better… Do you happen to have any chouriço?” [best translation I’ve got is “meat”, or maybe “sausage”] asks the friar. And so his hosts find him some chouriço that they throw in the pan.

“It’s looking great! Now this soup would really improve if we could thicken it up a little. Do you happen to have some potatoes or beans leftover from yesterday?” And some potatoes and beans have indeed been leftover from yesterday. The friar adds it to the soup.

The friar asks for a few more spices, olive oil, and soon there is a delicious smell coming from the pot. What a nice soup!

They eat and once the soup is finished the friar fishes out the stone, washes it and puts it back in his pocket. Tomorrow he’ll knock on someone else’s door along the way ;)

That brings me back! When I was a kid I did mostly good in school, but I despised history, so my mom would take the manual and make small test like question and quizzes that I could then consult the manual for to answer (but not copy). Just the change of format made it a search information task instead of reading a huge dull bunch of text.

History was always my weakest subject, but the help my mom gave always kept me from having terrible grades

This varies by person, and he best person to talk about this is your girlfriend.

With that said, I’d do half what she paid in rent for mortgage (of half the mortgage payment, whichever is smaller), and all other expenses split down the middle. She would pay rent if she lived elsewhere, the way I see it, her contributing to the mortgage is a deeply discounted rent.

This might not work for you, you need to talk. Me and my now husband when we first started setup a joint account, and each sent half of an agreed amount there every month, or as needed. We didn’t make similar incomes, it fluctuated back and forth through the years for both of us. Some people would think it was unfair for us to pay the same. It worked for us, and both of us were happy with the arranjement, it might not be the best option for you.

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It’s really tiring to just exist inside your own head.

I’ve described it before as a box filled with a bunch of bouncy balls just bouncing off on every direction, off the walls, ceiling and floor, all the time. Every one of those balls is a thought, it’s really hard to hold onto just one, it’s hard to keep one once you’ve caught it.

When I’m resting usually I just put in some youtube video/TV show/audio book and play some mindless game for a while. On the outside it looks like it just played solitaire for 3 hours straight, but on the inside I’m just trying to follow one line of thought while keeping the rest of my brain occupied and quiet for a second.

Not about money in my case, but similar stuff happens too. I just stand my ground and say as calmly as I can (with varying levels of success) “I’m sure X happened this way” we don’t discuss it often, my dad usually just keeps up believing stuff happened his way, and we leave it at that.

What helps me with those kinds of things is to focus on enjoying the thing, whatever it is. Especially digital stuff that occupies no space in my home, I accept that it’s ok to do something as long as I enjoy it, and when it becomes repetitive or boring I can just stop.

Of course sometimes you need to push against this a bit when you know there is a slightly unpleasant section blocking more enjoyable content. The big takeaway is that it’s ok to stop if you’re not enjoying yourself anymore. No one is gonna check or care.

Doesn’t always work, but it’s worth a try:

If you had the thing in your hand right now, and you had to put it away where would you put it?

Think of a few options and check those.

If you eventually find it and it wasn’t in the first place you though of, put it there when you put it away next.

I do believe a lot of landlords don’t care and will make decisions based on what makes them more money versus the well-being of the people living in their property. But I don’t agree that landlords as a concept are bad, and that they all should sell their extra properties to reduce the crazy prices we’re having.

There are plenty of reasons someone would prefer to rent than to buy, and if there are no landlords or rental houses what happens to those cases? I personally have attended university not at my home city, and I rented an apartment with other students. It makes no sense to buy in that situation. People who intend to live somewhere temporarily would mostly prefer to rent, what would happen then?

There is a problem with regulation, big companies owning whole apartment buildings, and generally small greedy landlords what will make their tenants life hell. But cutting out the whole concept is trading one issue with another.

Not able to checkout, but my local library has a tiny maker space you can go in and use. It includes some crafting supplies, a sewing machine and a 3D printer. For using the 3D printer they have a stamp card you pay for at the start for hours of printing. It’s not expensive, it’s there mostly to help pay filament and prevent people from doing super long prints without thinking about it. For checking out they have movie and series DVDs and board games

My inlaws’ cat makes makes it as difficult as possible to pet her when she likes it a lot. Doesn’t sit still, if I pet her chin she twists her head away to show me the top of her head instead, keeps walking back and forth, and even lays belly up sometimes (and she does not like her belly touched at all).

I know she’s liking it because she purrs like crazy, does not move away, if I stop looks at me until I start again. If in her walking back and forth I don’t chase her and leave my hand out she moves into it for more pets.

I’ve developed some techniques to pet her two handed where she sits still for some reason. Like chin scritches with one hand coming from each side, she loves it.

I also don’t understand why Windows hides it now and you have to dig around to re enable it.

I’m really happy with the one from IKEA, the bigger rectangular one. I’ve had it over a year. Not the prettiest, but if you don’t dislike it it’s alright

I have hibernate enabled in windows, and have it set for when I click the power button on the case it hibernates instead of sleep or shutdown. Hibernation means it’s off, but it saves its state before it shuts down and restores it after turning on. Meaning I have the convenience of my startup programs being all booted up and open windows and programs are just as I left them. I shutdown the computer normally the last time I use it at night, so I have it freshly booted in the morning.

Personally I hate waste and walking away from a computer for more than a few minutes and leaving it on makes me uncomfortable. I know I’m weird and a bit on the extreme side, but it’s how I feel, and the hibernation option is a good option that keeps most of the convenience of leaving it on or suspended.

I see so many jokes like this, but I’m the exact opposite. For semi formal things like contacting service providers, taxes, sales and the like I prefer to wait for 30 minutes on a phone call to writing a 5 minute email.

I get really paralized in writing something that doesn’t sound casual, so I prefer to have a phone call where it’s not expected that I’ll speak as formally as the email I’d have to send to get the same task done.

One important thing to note here is that in my native language casual and formal written language have a bigger difference compared to English.

I had no idea! So you use the phone in tether mode and get it hooked up on a router ethernet port and it works like that? Did you have to change any settings on your router to make it work?

You don’t need an ethernet adapter to use your phone as a cabled hotspot for a computer. Just a regular usb cabe works just fine, I’ve done it before when our home internet was down.

The idea itself is fine, but in practice it wouldn’t work. The kind of people you are trying to screen out in the process would just study do give the responses of a passing assessment, probably with the help of heavily paid mental health professionals.

Psicology is hard to test and prove, most of the things you are looking to test would not be visible in bloodwork or brainscans.