I actually know pro-lifers. I used to be a pretty ardent one myself. I used to be the sort that believed in no exceptions. Pro-lifers, or a least, a lot of them, don’t see it as a means of controlling women or being detrimental in any way to them. They think they’re helping the unborn and women by preventing abortions. They really do believe that. I’m sorry that you never got to meet any pro-lifers, or at least ones who aren’t misogynistic.
Just like Democrats, black people, and other groups, pro-lifers are not a monolith. There are good ones and bad ones.