• tetris11@lemmy.ml
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      This. Someone who is willing to come down to my ignorant level in a subject and reward me for my tiny effort and interest in it, is an immediate win in my book. Though it is a hard line to cross without going into smirky/mansplaining territory.

      For example, Veritasium videos are always fantastic, but I can’t get over how the man smirks when he explains concepts, despite the fact that it’s his natural smile.

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    They actually show up, or, failing that, tell you they aren’t going to show up and summarize why and when the next best time is.

  • naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    • vegan
    • soft spoken
    • patient
    • hands scarred/calloused from work
    • creases in face from smiling
    • casual manner/attire
    • walks around other earthlings on footpaths etc instead of through
    • puts their shopping trolley away, bonus if they round up others
    • mocks authority
    • is kind to children and listens to them seriously
  • keepcarrot [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    I feel like everything is a green flag until a red flag pops up. Like how an open road is functionally a permission to cintinue driving.

    There are things where I get excited about a person, but even then red flags are more important. “Never admits to wrongdoing” and “Thinks kicking down a door and screaming at your partner is an appropriate response to leaving a mug in the wrong cupboard” is going to flatly be more important in a relationship than “does activism” or “is house trained”.

    That said, I don’t like arguing all the time and do organising stuff irl, so it would be nice to agree politically on a bunch of things. Responds to texts/messages and seems excited to build conversation with me.

  • jet@hackertalks.com
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    They are happy to see you!

    They handle stress and disappointment well.

    They don’t externalize their frustrations, and take responsibility for solving their own problems. They act like a functioning adult.

    They have interests and hobbies that they are happy to do alone, or share.

    Unfair - but they don’t have intense money, drug, social pressure in their life, a stable situation is the good grounds for relationships

    bonus: If their parents are attractive, then they could be a good partner who ages gracefully with you

  • Quintus@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    If a person carries their trash with them until they stumble upon a trash bin they instantly have a plus in my book.