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This. Someone who is willing to come down to my ignorant level in a subject and reward me for my tiny effort and interest in it, is an immediate win in my book. Though it is a hard line to cross without going into smirky/mansplaining territory.
For example, Veritasium videos are always fantastic, but I can’t get over how the man smirks when he explains concepts, despite the fact that it’s his natural smile.
They actually show up, or, failing that, tell you they aren’t going to show up and summarize why and when the next best time is.
Empathy.
Expresses disagreement with people talking shit about others when they don’t have to
- vegan
- soft spoken
- patient
- hands scarred/calloused from work
- creases in face from smiling
- casual manner/attire
- walks around other earthlings on footpaths etc instead of through
- puts their shopping trolley away, bonus if they round up others
- mocks authority
- is kind to children and listens to them seriously
Uptoot for leading with vegan
Mocking authority is a green flag?
communism, support for palestine
I feel like everything is a green flag until a red flag pops up. Like how an open road is functionally a permission to cintinue driving.
There are things where I get excited about a person, but even then red flags are more important. “Never admits to wrongdoing” and “Thinks kicking down a door and screaming at your partner is an appropriate response to leaving a mug in the wrong cupboard” is going to flatly be more important in a relationship than “does activism” or “is house trained”.
That said, I don’t like arguing all the time and do organising stuff irl, so it would be nice to agree politically on a bunch of things. Responds to texts/messages and seems excited to build conversation with me.
They are happy to see you!
They handle stress and disappointment well.
They don’t externalize their frustrations, and take responsibility for solving their own problems. They act like a functioning adult.
They have interests and hobbies that they are happy to do alone, or share.
Unfair - but they don’t have intense money, drug, social pressure in their life, a stable situation is the good grounds for relationships
bonus: If their parents are attractive, then they could be a good partner who ages gracefully with you
They smile at people they meet in a genuine “have a good day” vibe. It lifts people more than you know.
Spatial awareness and sensitivity, especially in doorways, hallways, and sidewalks.
They treat service people well.
If a person carries their trash with them until they stumble upon a trash bin they instantly have a plus in my book.
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they read books
Uses vim?
Now I’m not dating someone unless they can prove their vim skills. Probably I’m gonna die alone.
:wq is the equivalent of sexting you
Maybe :q! (Bang)
