Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we’re all about breaking corporate chains right?
So these are the thoughts I had:
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Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.
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ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
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E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it’s possible).
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Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.
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Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we’re here for love lol
I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).
You need actual moderation to keep people safe.
ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
The overlap between the users who will run their own instance and the users you want for a dating app is the empty set.
(Speaking as someone that runs a personal Lemmy instance here)
Neckbeards fighting about Linux. No girls in sight.
Like Lemmy.
I never understood reddit as a dating site. And the problems there are only amplified on Lemmy.
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user density in the geographic region I would date within. With reddit, at least I was quite sure there were other users within an hours drive of me
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it’s not a dating site and not set up with the guardrails needed to make it even marginally safe. If a person on Bumble starts being scary, there are some ways to report then and they will possibly be removed or restricted from the platform. On reddit and Lemmy, the responses will be one of the following “free speech, get wrecked”, “if you don’t want to be abused/harassed, you shouldn’t go into public spaces”, or “you signed up for the site, you asked for it”, or “give them a chance, they are probably just not good at dating skills” or even Andrew Tate acolyte bullshit that I don’t want to think about.
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distribution of gender and of sexual orientation across the platform. I would be surprised if Lemmy userbase is less than 95% men. Unless those men are gay/bi at an improbably high rate, there aren’t going to be many people available to match with.
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“everyone have a good time, we’re here for love” says the hordes of people who are actually here to waste time with no intention to actually date, cruise for nudes, or to data mine peoples personal information.
Tl;Dr if actual dating apps are not bringing a person dating success, nothing about Lemmy will be any better.
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In theory? Yes. In reality? No.
Besides all the practical reasons already mentioned, it’s simply a question of marketing to get people into it. Which costs money noone wants to pay because it kills the principle of breaking free of corpo-hold. Without marketing you’ll end up with the nerds that are already here (majority). And of those, the majority are probably also male.
And on top of that, you might find other people living in NYC but what about smaller cities or even foreign ones? With reddits userbase you probably could, but you don’t reach them because they already prefer mainstream-stuff 😐
And of those, the majority are probably also male.
Ok we start with a federated Grindr, then once that takes off we use the network effects to pull in other orientations…
Lol. But… We already have grindr. If I’d be gay, why should i use anything else? 😁
It’s still controlled by a single organization, it’s not federated, it’s not open, it’s not Democratic. So if we’re trying to bring democracy to more platforms, why not grinder?
