UPDATE: The transphobe Ada has been defending says they misgender all trans women/NBs on Blahaj who are strangers - Blåhaj Lemmy
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Further information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer to all people of unknown gender as male. > Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay. > Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the internet is male for strangers. Source: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] WRT the statement that I accused them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815] https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026 [https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026]
  • Water Bowl Slime@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
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    2 years ago

    But I’ve heard (non-chud) people say “dude” to refer to the person they’re talking to in a gender neutral way. As an interjection, mostly.

    I don’t have any clips to share but I’m positive that Anne from Amphibia calls all her friends “dude”

    • Fuckass [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      2 years ago

      There’s no universal perception to it. Like yes, technically ‘dude’ is a gendered term, and one for young people usually. But I’ve seen girls call each other that all the time, though usually they have to know each other and don’t call strangers that unlike guys. Some people are offended by it, others don’t think about it at all and don’t even see an “implication”. Like, most people don’t think twice when they hear mankind (though I’d argue that should be changed because the weight is heavier than “dude” or “hey guys”)

      Some people find “buddy” or “pal” condescending and angrily correct you when you call them that. It’s best to avoid calling people something they don’t like, but I find it a bit silly to assume someone is bad just because they’ve never thought about innocuous words having implications about identity. So many words and concepts have changed from its inception, so I don’t find it impossible that many people think dude is a universal/gender neutral term.