Like most other people here, I originally came here from reddit. Ive been having a blast so far, and I much prefer the forum-style of this. After about a week of using Lemmy I realized there was something intrinsic to reddit that Lemmy doesnt have. And I wont miss it. Too many people on reddit were way too horny. I was really annoying, but Lemmy seems way more chill. Plus its refreshing knowing that the people on here arent all bots.
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Especially as a gay guy, seeing massively upvoted posts of a woman holding basically anything (but she’s wearing a low-cut top!!!) got pretty exhausting.
Trust me, as a hetero woman, I got so exhausted too. Reddit got so eye-roll-y within…less than 5 minutes sometimes that it made me just leave and go do something productive.
The Internet, sadly, has always been an awful place for women and minorities. I hope we can build a culture here where that kind of shit isn’t tolerated, and all (sans trolls, bigots, racists, and Nazis) are made to feel welcome and respected.
Except the Dutch. Fuck those guys.
What the fuck have we dutchies done😂
You burned all our ships that one time!
Austin Powers quote! https://libquotes.com/mike-myers/quote/lbb8l7s
What did I do to you?
Is that a Better Off Ted reference? 😂
Lol Austin Powers: https://libquotes.com/mike-myers/quote/lbb8l7s
Oh right of course. BOT quotes Austin Powers, lol. Thanks :)
Same here. I put a lot of effort into carefully curating my subscribed list on Apollo - it definitely made the experience much more enjoyable.
I mean, I’m a straight man and I would also find that annoying!
Yeah, it started to spill over so subs like r/classiccars and r/dogpictures.
From the outside looking in car culture seems pretty full of that kind of thing anyway.
I’ll never forgot how absolutely bonkers r/CablePorn went over this. Top posts all-time were of some truly gorgeous masterful cable-work in server rooms, colorful coordination, gore-to-porn jobs of jumbled mess to near works-of-art. Then some mildly attractive girl posts herself pointing to a comparatively meh small cabling setup it went into meltdown while also becoming one of the top posts at the time.
I’m gay too. I don’t really understand what this post is about. Your complaint is seeing someone you’re not attracted to? That can’t be right. There has to be something I’m missing.
At least for me, I feel the same way (despite liking women) because I disliked seeing something that was relatively low quality get upvoted purely because of sex appeal. Hell, there’s even a whole sub dedicated to the idea that people just paid attention to the sex appeal, only to be surprised that the content itself was really cool
https://www.reddit.com/r/UNBGBBIIVCHIDCTIICBG/ Upvoted Not Because Girl, But Because It Is Very Cool; However, I Do Concede That I Initially Clicked Because Girl.
I don’t mind the initial posts but when the comments are all “nipples” or something it reinforces what I’ve told my partner: I hate going out in public knowing anyone could take a picture of me and find any reason to sexualize or harass me, just for existing:/
As an asexual, that always was a bit uncomfortable. And don’t even get me started on the bots always sending dms. Damn things never stopped. xD
Or r/art just being naked women
I remember finding a great subreddit called r/CharacterArt (or something like that). You could post character art mainly focused on dnd and other ttrpgs. I thought that was a great idea, and checked it out to find some cool art for my own Pathfinder game.
90% of the top post were women in revealing clothing.
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Agreed. To help prevent this we should all send at least a few bucks a month to keep this project running.
Trust me, that’s coming too. Only thing that can be done is to block federation of those instances.
The horny people are gonna come here, just watch and see 😉.
im putting my dingus in your microwave
That’s exactly what I’m talking about 😂.
It’s basically asking for it.
Hey Randy!
Don’t forget those horny bots. Beep boop bop
What would be nice is a good way to separate the nsfw instances from the others. Then have one account for those and one for normal posting.
Well, I do have a few accounts on Lemmy, lol 😂. Multiple personalities, at one point, I had 5 accounts on reddit 😂.
Can confirm, been here a couple days, did a “Well lemme check just in case” search for jubblies earlier 😂
Already here. ;)
There goes the neighbourhood 😂.
The thing I like the most is that I don’t have to scroll through lines of people making jokes to get to the actual discussion or insightful commentary on the topic. Even though there is less happening here, it is definitely more. I honestly can’t see going back to reddit.
I don’t mind good jokes, but Reddit has standard “inside jokes” that are posted to almost every thread. That and the endless quotes from television shows. I like Arrested Development too, but god damn can we just have a conversation without asking how much one banana costs?
I got so tired of American cultural references that I couldn’t get
I ended up sticking to UK versions of the big subreddits towards the end partially for this reason and partially because I only really follow American politics beyond the surface level when it’s geopolitically relevant to the UK so I wouldn’t have a clue what was going on in some threads. Nothing against American pop culture or anything (I’d be massive hypocrite, I’m a deadhead and that’s got to be one of the most quintessentially American bands) but it gets a bit too much when it’s 24/7 and most of the comments sometimes.
I like to think the Fediverse ought to naturally be more internationalist since it’s not fundamentally an organ of the American ad industry but I guess we’ll see in the years to come. Either way I much prefer the vibe here in general, it’s way more chill and not an angry place like Reddit has become.
I think it’s just the nature of the Internet being predominantly English speaking, b3ta.com went the same way quite quickly
Very much this. There is the same jokes that pop up over and over and over again. It gets repetitive.
Is that even avoidable? It’s the low effort type of joke that will get you upvotes every time, and because of that, people will always reuse them.
“Karma” and the gamification of it make it worthwhile to do whatever gets you those upvotes. I like that Lemmy votes stay attached to the specific post or comment without it giving an overall score for the user. I also really like that the scores can be hidden by the user entirely.
Is “karma” system completely bad? If someone has bad reputation (based on karma) it can be used to quickly figure out if they are troll account for example.
Potentially. It also might just mean they post, or posted one time, things that go against the commonly held groupthink.
I don’t think a reputation system is bad necessarily, however I think Reddit is well aware that the one they created results in many users chasing that carrot, and people take the scores very seriously. You see evidence all the time with “downvotes, really?” or “of course my most upvoted comment is”. The dopamine hit and avoidance of downvotes (or ability to punish wrong-thinkers with them) help create some of the echo chamber.
A reputation system could easily be based on a global ratio and labels for example, but it would be less addictive. I am on an instance that doesn’t even have downvotes, and I like that, and I still hide scores, so my concern for identifying trolls through a points system versus the things they say isn’t all that high.
That’s a good point, it is a flawed system in that sense, but it definitely incentivizes people to interact and post more, which is in turn a good for the platform getting more content, I guess.
I’m excited to see how Lemmy’s system is going to work out, and/or if it evolves, and what kind of community will it end up “creating”.
Oh god I got so tired of the jokes. In the beginning I liked to see them peppered in here and there, and I love a good pun, but it just became so overdone and forced. Every thread was just lines and lines and lines of jokes (many of them weren’t even good) with no actual conversation. It got boring.
AnarchyChess somehow seemingly flooding the site in the last week or two, good lord. Every single time, “holy hell” etc. So old, so quickly.
I miss the jokes
we all need a few jokes here and there
Another thing I appreciate here is the lack of ragebait. It’s more common in video sharing platforms (which Reddit keeps stumbling over itself trying to become) where you have people deliberately making awful food recipes or doing something completely nonsensical for the sole purpose of clicks and engagement.
Social media in its current state is focused on pissing people off. Twitter and Reddit making decisions to kneecap themselves for the sake of lofty ideals is the best thing that’s happened to the Internet in recent memory.
This is particularly why I don’t participate in any social media aside from (what used to be reddit but now) lemmy. It got to the point where I wasn’t even enjoying reddit, I just clicked it out of habit. And did I actually retain anything useful from that website? Lol no. It was all just timewasting bullshit that put you in a pissy mood.
It’s nice to actually hold a fucking conversation for once. I think a lot of us came here for the same reason; missing the community of that old school forum feel.
Yeah, after years of being in that swirling bowl of timewasting, contrarian opinionating, and all that bad faith nonsense, I agree. I actually agree. Man, this is like the Digimon fan forums back in the ProBoards days, haha!
YES this so so much. reddit tends to be way too full of ragebait, horny comments, and extremist echo chambers. i’ve had enough with it all!
100% this. My mood levels have been way more stable since I deleted Reddit. I think the forum based media here also only attracts people willing to contribute more than just a sensational picture or video.
Tbf I enjoyed r/shittyfoodporn…
Saaame. But I like it when it’s genuinely bad. Not just some tiktok of some content farm adding cheese to cheese to cheese.
Precisely, and I still fall for it all the time…
Some of the subreddits could be great, but some could also be really mean and unwelcoming. So far it seems much more friendly here, and I hope that’s not just the honeymoon period.
It is. The bad comes with the good. If we want more user migration then it’s only about time.
Part of that came from the same 3 questions being asked every 5 hours from new people. I’m not necessarily condoning or justifying it, but it did get rather annoying in r/Deadpool when every day there were 4 new posts saying “Hey, I’m new to Deadpool, what’s a good place to start reading/catching up?” despite the first item on the sidebar and FAQ was where to start and the big bold letters on a new post screen was “READ THE FAQ”.
Alternatively, I stayed away from other subs like 1911 because if it wasn’t a Springfield, Colt, or $1400 custom job you got berated and told to “save more money”
I am still horny. I am just waiting for someone to make a popular NSFW instance. I have considered doing it myself but I doubt I would have the energy to manage it.
I have considered doing it myself but I doubt I would have the energy to manage it.
Because of the masturbating?
😆 No, I just got a lot going on in my life at the moment.
Before you are two paths. One is cracking that hog. The other is becoming a cranky mod. Choose wisely.
Cracking? 💀
cracking that hog
😣😣😣
What? You don’t hear a one to one recreation of cracking 5 glowsticks in your hand when you jerk off?
Suddenly reminded of the video of the kid microwaving a glowstick and their father calling them a ding-a-ling for ruining their awesome shirt.
Someone did, though there’s nothing on it now https://lemmynsfw.com/
if i have to go first, well… i will, but i won’t like it
I wouldn’t be surprised if the current round of departures from Reddit leads to someone out there making an NSFW focused instance. Maybe not in the timeframe some would want, but it feels inevitable for better or worse.
That reminds me an aspect to Lemmy and similar federated platforms that I think will be nice, whether Horny or Not!Horny: an instance with a particular focus can get invested in the policies and practices that benefit that kind of focus to a degree that really isn’t possible with a big, central tent like Reddit. Federation also means that hopping between instances to cherry pick the kind of fine-tuned experience you want is going to be a lot easier. I’m guessing that finding different instances might become a bit more difficult over time, but I’m excited to see where things go.
I will miss that too. However, I’m not sure how moderation on Lemmy works, but if only the admins get to moderate, it will be very exhausting to look through every NSFW community. Outsourcing moderation might help the situation, but considering even big corporation owned websites struggle with illegal content being posted, imagine a small community like Lemmy currently is.
A shame, Reddit is the only website I’ve found that had a few subs posting trans porn without being fetishizing and/or male gaze-y.
Lol, I kinda agree, which is somewhat related to another thing I won’t miss: The teenagers.
The lockdown + reddit’s new direction of becoming more like fb/insta has drastically increased the number of teenagers on reddit. I hate it. It’s like an eternal summer-reddit.
The discussions get crappy and stale, they don’t follow rediquette, they are insufferably naive but aggressive with their opinions due to twitterification of their online socialisation. and so.fricking.horny. TIFU and Askreddit almost completely became horny fantasy posting, and I blame the teenagers for it.
God I feel like a terminally-online grumpy old man for saying it, but UGH interacting with teens online is like a human rights violation.
Reminding myself that the person posting the worst opinions I’ve seen in my life is likely a 14 year-old with unrestricted access to the internet from birth is the only thing keeping me sane.
I’ve never taken the time to think about it like this, but it would explain so fucking much.
Hey redditors, what is the sexiest sex you’ve ever sexed sexually?
Reddit has always been full of teenagers. But it’s gotten “worse” over the past few years. Or maybe I (we’ve?) just gotten older. I don’t remember reddit being like this 10 years ago; but I was 10 years younger, and a teen too.
I get it, I was a teen and I browsed reddit too, and enjoyed it a lot.
I definitely think it’s gotten worse. Teens used to be more of lurkers in my experience, but that isn’t the case anymore especially because reddit is encouraging teens to treat the site more like twitter, and rewarding mindless engagement. I don’t remember the content being this mindless, or the teenagers being this vocal.
Or maybe we’re just grumpy old people now idk anymore man
Why won’t teenagers come here along with everyone else?
I, too, miss Usenet.
yeah ……… i have found various subs infiltrated with people as young as 13 and it shocks me. its honestly extremely dangerous for themselves to be exploring reddit at that age but also like dude, i absolutely do not want to be engaging with anyone under the age of 20 MINIMUM
I don’t mind them being on reddit at that age. I just wish they knew when to keep their mouth shut - 90% of the bad discussions I saw in the last three years could’ve been solved with a 10sec search.
Grumpy old men FTW! Together we will be less grumpy… I hope
Very true
A/S/L?
14/F/Cali
I haven’t thought of that meme in a long time.
Is TIHI federated yet cause this meme needs to go there my eyes are bleeding
Be the change you want to see in the world.
I am waiting for some NSFW communities/instances to be created. It has the addition of attracting new users as well.
Hoping they don’t come with a deluge of OnlyFans spam. Reddit had some good niche NSFW subs, but they got watered down with generic content. The same stuff gets posted to every sub, with a mad libbed title to fit the kink. Their profiles are just a hundred of the same picture, titled Would you _____ a ______ or Am I too ____ for ____?
I think the worst offender was a ginger who made it to the top of HotArabGirls or something.
Yes! Those titles were so annoying.
Same, I feel like there isn’t any niche content here yet, but I’m less than an hour in so I’m still kinda looking for the light switch
Sorting by all/hot, you can come across some nsfw communities, although some of them seem really shady.
Trust me; they’re coming. As a borderline asexual person I’d want nothing more than a non horny refuge, but that will never exist. Humans are far far too horned up to allow for that.
Why not just make or join an ACE community? I don’t have any links handy, but I know I saw at least one searching through places to subscribe to.
That’s a fair question, but more importantly what accent do you fart with? Or is a different one each time?
Great question: It varies depending on what I eat.
I’m asexual, through & through. It’s understandable that sex / sexual content is inevitable in such a wide open space, but on R×ddit, it’s become absolutely constant and inescapable! To the point where non-sexual things are being sexualized, and it’s just become genuinely unnerving and gross.
I want to stop seeing posts commenting on everyday objects and being like “Damn, I’d fuck that!”, as if anyone truly wanted to know that. Ever. Ick.
It’s pretty eye opening to read this. As someone with a fairly high sex drive, I live every day with my body constantly demanding I have sex. It’s not a difficult urge to keep in check, but it is pretty constant.
I think the humor you’re talking about stems from that constant battle. No one (well someone, but not most people) would actually have sex with whatever inanimate object is being posted. Its just making light of that constant urge most of us face.
But I totally get how that could sound disgusting if you don’t share that experience. I will try to keep that in mind for the aces out there.
I’m bisexual myself but I hope they can at least not let things turn into what askreddit turned into with the near constant sexual questions.
i think we are a lot safer, with instances that completely block nsfw, they gonna gather in the more open instances
*yet.
The pessimistic Internet user in me knows we are in the honeymoon stage of a wonderful user base.
Yeah, I just encountered my first “average redditor” on here, but it was just one account among many great ones, so it’s still good for now, but the trolls will come.
Oh, there’s still plenty of time for that. I’ve already seen a couple of NSFW Lemmy instances,
That’s disgusting! Tell me exactly where so I know where to avoid! Exactly.
I mean, you asked for it lol https://lemmynsfw.com/c/hentai
Annnnnd just like that, I learned that tentacle porn is a thing. Why did I click haha
It’s been a thing literally for centuries, you’re late :P
Call of the void?
Lol, this is one of the Lemmy moments of all time
THISSSS. its nice to know that presumably the majority of the people here are genuine people who want to be here and engage in a community :) im so happy to be(e) here hehe
I’m hoping it won’t happen here but the endless shoehorning about how every single little problem anyone under the age of 40 encounters is because of fUcKiNg BoOmErS, and how anyone under the age of 40 is the most oppressed group of people in the history of time.
Ok boomer 👌😎🔥🌿💨
