As we all know, Roblox is garbage tier gameplay structured around psychological cues to get children to fill an endless pit with fake money bought with real money.

So I banned my kid from it. He used it a little bit socially with a few friends of his. What online or local multiplayer games should I help him to replace it with? (He’s 10, so please don’t recommend Diablo 4 or anything else that has quite that much gore)

He and his friends have an Xbox Series X|S at home.

Edit: keep your judgemental shit out of here. His whole social group (5 kids he knows from school) got banned on the same day. Me and the other parents are trying to be nice and replace it with better quality games so it isn’t just a punishment.

Edit2: Thanks guys. I got him Lee Carvallo’s Putting Challenge

  • NaibofTabr
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    611 months ago

    For everyone saying OP should let their kid play Roblox and just ban spending money… just no.

    Roblox exploits child labor for profit and they have terrible scummy business practices. If you have even marginal ethical qualms about child labor and/or capitalistic exploitation of vulnerable people, you should be keeping yourself and your family away from Roblox. In your mind they should be in the same category as multilevel marketing, crypto scams and door-to-door religion peddlers.

      • NaibofTabr
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        111 months ago

        I actually think it’s fair to call them child predators. They’re exploiting kids for money instead of sexual gratification, but it’s the same power dynamic. Child exploitation is their business model.

    • @ferralcat@monyet.cc
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      This guy’s argument would literally be that Mario maker is encouraging child labor because it doesn’t pay kids who make levels in it.

      • @ZeroHora@lemmy.ml
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        Roblox sells the idea that you can actually make money with it, it has its own economy with job hunting and salaries. Mario Maker is just a community game.

      • NaibofTabr
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        111 months ago

        Intent makes a big difference. The value of Roblox as a platform and as a business is based on the work done by children to develop for it, and it was set up that way on purpose. They created an incentive model to encourage it.

        Nintendo’s value as a company is not based on kids creating Mario Maker levels, nor does Nintendo push kids to do so with the promise of earning money.

  • Gunpachi
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    Some games you could consider -

    1. Krunker
    2. Minecraft java edition
    3. Stardew valley
    4. Terraria
    5. Starbound
    6. Dorfromantik
    7. Cities skyline
    8. Goat simulator
  • JamesConeZone [they/them]
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    411 months ago

    I banned my kid from Roblox… what next?

    I would just talk to your kid and listen to his feelings and wants. What does he enjoy about Roblox? Can he find that enjoyment with some other games? Does he understand that its not a punishment, e.g. it’s not anything that he did and that you aren’t blaming him? Sure, you can suggest a few alternatives and they might take and be fun, but you’ll need to be attuned to his feelings around what he might see as a punishment for something that he did so that he doesn’t internalize it and hurt the relationship you have with him.

    • BetoA
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      This is amazing advice! Saving it for when I have a kid.

    • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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      yeah this should be the immediate next step. The kid shouldn’t feel punished. It shouldn’t be a “you’re not allowed because I said so.” Kids can be smart and might be able to understand why Roblox is exploitative.

      At least this is a better reason to take a way a kid’s video game. My parents banned me from certain games/movies because they had positive depictions of black people.

      • @MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.ml
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        My parents banned me from certain games/movies because they had positive depictions of black people.

        Holy crap, that’s nuts. Are they KKK or something?

        • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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          011 months ago

          no, just very idiosyncratic white American racists. I don’t even know where they got it from. My grandparents weren’t racists and my parents never listened to Rush Limbaugh or anything.

            • axont [she/her, comrade/them]
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              Nah, they don’t watch that either. They’re very detached and only watch football or movies with Humphrey Bogart. My best guess is they felt some kind of resentment their whole lives because they were always the poorest ones out of their siblings. All my aunts and uncles formed businesses or got moderately wealthy, whereas I grew up on the lower middle side of that spectrum. And that turned into standard American racism.

  • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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    Minecraft seems like the obvious choice for kids who liked Roblox. Terraria is another. If they can only play on a server that one of them hosts, then no need to worry about outside users.

    Good on you and the other parents for getting that shit out of there, kids don’t need addiction machines trying to pressure them into spending money.

  • @GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee
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    11 months ago

    fill an endless pit with fake money bought with real money.

    Honest question, if the money is the issue, then why not let him play the free stuff and not spend money on it?

    • @WetBeardHairs@lemmy.mlOP
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      I’m crumudgeony enough to remember when buying a game was buying a game. I disliked it when mobile games slowly changed into monitization via microtransactions. Heck, I remember buying games for full price and then they got changed to ftp overnight with mtx. That kind of stuff drove me nuts and I am firmly anti-mtx. That said, I let my kid earn money he can use on mtx for cosmetics and stuff on Fortnite. But it is a dedicated pool of money for mtx, his actual money kept separate so he can buy ice cream or save for bigger purchases without worry. Roblox on the other hand, is a company that exploits children for their labor to create the games and it hires psychologists to ensure kids dump as much money into it as possible all while having no moderation. Roblox is awful. Microtransactions in children’s games are harmful and exploitive. I’m letting my kid get a drip feed so he can get the little benefit from having non-stock costumes in fortnite while also having the learning experience that in games with mtx, you can never have enough - without him becoming a whale.

  • @Arkenbon@pawb.social
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    Terraria, for something crafty-buildy with combat and very cartoony/2d blood and gore. 1-8 players.

    Don’t Starve Together, survival crafting in a hand-drawn Tim Burton-esque style. 2-6 players.

    Awesomenauts, 3v3 fast paced competitive game in the style of Saturday morning cartoons. 3-6 players.

    Deep Rock Galactic, coop shooter where you play space dwarves and shoot bugs while doing missions together. Gore may be a bit strong for your liking, but it’s very stylized and only against bugs and robots. 1-4 players.

    Risk of Rain 2, shooter where you try and escape a planet together with lots of different ways to play. 1-4 players.

    Age of Empires 2, old school fast-paced medieval strategy game modernized with new graphics and such. 1-8 players.

    Valheim, viking survival crafty buildy game in which you explore and conquer a dangerous world together. 1-10 players.

    Cassette Beasts, technically not multi-player yet but they’re adding it as a free update January. It’s a Pokémon-esque game where you’ll all be trainers in the same overworld together capturing beasts and taking down challenges together. 1-8 players when it comes out.

    All of these games are rated T for teen, but it sounds more like you’re opposed to M rated violence and language than T levels. They’re all also insular in that this friend group doesn’t need to involve other people to play together and can either play with or against each other or the computer.

    • @WetBeardHairs@lemmy.mlOP
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      Some really solid recommendations here. Thanks a ton. I’ve heard of Deep Rock Galactic but it didn’t pop into mind. And Risk of Rain 2 looks great.

  • m-p{3}
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    My oldest kid (6yo) is currently having fun with Goat Simulator ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and yes, I bought the expansions.

    He doesn’t play online yet, but I have Minecraft on the PS4 so that may be an option later on.

    Other options I can think of that would be appropriate and multiplayer

    • Rocket League
    • Fall Guys
    • Party Animals
    • Portal 2
    • Astroneer
    • Human Fall Flat
  • @Daryl76679@lemmy.ml
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    Besides the obvious Minecraft recommendation, maybe Terraria, Satisfactory, and if you’re willing to allow it, something like Smite would be another good option for him to play with his friends.

  • @AlexWIWA@lemmy.ml
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    Self hosted Minecraft server for socializing. Mod the shit out of it

    Factorio if you want your kid to have a severe addiction.

    Red Alert 2 because I want the world to play it.

    Ace Combat because it’s hype and plays well with a controller.

    Bloons tower defense

  • 520
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    Minecraft is pretty good for this kind of stuff, especially Java Edition (has mods, and loooooads of servers, some of which also use mods to drastically alter the gameplay. You can also host your own, free of charge).

    • @WetBeardHairs@lemmy.mlOP
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      Yeah I prefer the java version, myself. But my kid doesn’t have a pc just yet - he’s limited to consoles and ipad for now.

  • Danileonis
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    Oh, I’m sure we’re all great parents here. I applaud you for admitting a mistake and having the humility to ask for advice, both excellent parenting skills in my opinion.

    I believe the answer is always culture. Once better videogames are discovered it’s likely that they will hardly go back to the bad ones (so that the problem of prohibitionism - which is only a temporary solution - can be solved).

  • @parpol@programming.dev
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    To be honest, you’re probably better off letting your kid play whatever game they like, including garbage like roblox or diablo 4. Just make it very clear that no money will be spent on any microtransactions whatsoever and feed them the idea that spending real money is cheating.

    • @Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml
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      On one hand it can be damaging to take away opportunities from kids, on the other hand roblox is massive groomer haven; I genuinely don’t think the kinds of connections they would make there would be worth the long term harm that may result for being involved in that shit.

      Ultimately I think you did the right thing by banning it. You’re locking out like a 10th of their social life but those aren’t contacts they want.

      • @WetBeardHairs@lemmy.mlOP
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        Yeah we’re giving him and his friends alternative multiplayer games to have fun on with each other. It’s not like we’re killing his social circle - we’re just upgrading the forum.

    • @tacosanonymous@lemm.ee
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      I agree with this. Roblox is huge and often how kids of an age socialize/play. Teach them why mtx aren’t okay, and protect yourself from having to pay.

      Get them into some irl stuff too. DND group, sports, book clubs, etc.

  • @Cagi@lemmy.ca
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    Fall Guys, Among Us, Totally Reliable Delivery Service. These games are full of shenanigans 10 year olds love.

    • @WetBeardHairs@lemmy.mlOP
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      Totally Reliable Delivery Service

      Thanks for that one. I hadn’t seen it yet. I bet they’d have fun with it.