• @Meltrax@lemmy.world
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    1222 hours ago

    “You’re too hard to hug.”

    I’m a muscular dude. This was a complaint from a woman I knew. It was not a compliment, she genuinely refused to hug me when we greeted each other.

    • @MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.ml
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      26 hours ago

      Was she particularly skinny? A friend of mine with a similar problem explained that because she was very skinny (actual eating disorder), any slightly hard surface puts pressure on her bones (especially ribs) painfully even when doing it gently, and she would feel pain even by sitting on a chair without a pillow between her body and the wood surface. Muscle and fat help coushon and spread the pressure across a larger area so most people don’t experience this pain.