Then I power through what should have been my whole day of work in 2h30 before going to bed. Then I go try to sleep very late on an adrenaline high, wondering why I tend to burnout, cause I’m so great at this.
Anyway, the medication seemed to have calmed me down a bit on this.
Oooh. I felt this. My thing is, when facing a deadline or something, procrastinate until I forget about thing, then when I’m reminded the day before, start work at 10pm sharp, stay up until finished, convince myself I’ll be fine with only 2 hours of sleep, go to bed, sleep through my alarm, show up several hours late, unbathed and generally in a disorderly state, frantic and panicked.
it’s called executive dysfunction
Which should be the name instead of ADHD.
To be blunt, the stigma of typicals around adult ADHD is so severe that for most people I just tell them I have an executive function disorder.
It usually confuses them into learning what the issue actually is rather than their perception of what ADHD is.
Look, I’m bad at life because my brain does things wrong, okay?
Hey! I do that too! Instead of saying I have trouble committing names/dates/verbal info, I just tell folks I have a short term memory disorder. Which is true! I need to mess up someone’s name or an important piece of info like 5 times until I cement it in, with guilt and embarrassment.
I did that a lot recently, but the past week I decided that I hated spending all day thinking about the tasks more than doing them.
I’ve been forcing myself to just do it and I’ve been getting through it pretty quickly and not having that task loom over me all day.
I read somewhere a good starting point is if a task takes less than two minutes, just do it now. You start there and build. Never quite realized that’s what I’d started doing on my own, but it has helped, especially after making it a conscious effort.
Now if someone could tell me how to deal with having a shift at work at the end of the day and the entire day before the shift being wasted because all I can focus on is that I have somewhere to be in 6 hours.
just do it
Hey wait… My brain does have hands!
they call em fingers but I never see em fing
Likewise but they always seem to get distracted so easily doing mindane things
Maybe if my brain has 2 more hands…
I always thought it would be interesting if we had 4 hands instead of just 2… and I always felt like I’m missing a hand or two (I use my mouth and legs a lot to hold on to things, lol 😂).
The amount of times I use any extremity as an additional hand is so often it’s silly
Basically as long as I have an anchor point I can and have used everything else: mouth, feet, legs, crooks of my arms, etc
I’ve been told it can be strange watching me move about when I’ve got things I’m doing but I ain’t gonna stop
The amount of times I use any extremity as an additional hand is so often it’s silly
This 🤣. I was once told I look like a homeless person desperately trying to hold on to his life’s belongings 🤣🤣🤣. I laughed my ass off 🤣🤣🤣.
Basically as long as I have an anchor point I can and have used everything else: mouth, feet, legs, crooks of my arms, etc
Yeah, forgot the armpits, cuz… well, they’re part of the hand, so it’s not really considered not using your hands, is it 🤔 😂?
I’ve been told it can be strange watching me move about when I’ve got things I’m doing but I ain’t gonna stop
Mhm, mhm, feel ya 👍. Have been told the same 😂.
Lol, I get what you mean. I feel like if I had doc Ock arms I’d feel complete lol
I find I can leverage this sometimes.
Years ago in college, I lamented to a classmate of mine that I feel like i was doing so much thinking all weekend but had nothing to show for it. He simply responded “That’s called research, and that counts”.
Now, although i’m far from efficient, I try to use that rapid thinking time to sort out all the loose strings in my mind, essentially polishing ideas over and over again until my “what-ifs” are paired down and in the last hour of work I can sometimes get myself into a hyperfocus and accomplish what I was thinking about all day.
Totally not a blanket solution but I hope it helps someone reframe their thoughts a bit, maybe help them feel less guilty about holding all this in their head.
Also TAKE NOTES. Obsidian is great, you can link your ideas together, extra pages are free, the canvas tool is great to just tie ideas together.
I made a meme of this exact phenomenon before my original instance went belly up, can’t get it to upload but the text was:
"People say being ADHD doesn’t come with superpowers
But can a neurotypical feel the exhaustion of a task without ever getting up to do it?"
This is me all day every day recently. I’m stuck.
No one in this community wants to hear it, but it is a symptom of personality, and the only way you fix it is with consistent effort to discipline yourself over a long period of time. Therapy is as effective as drugs. It just takes more effort, and people would rather brand themselves as disabled than take small, consistent steps over a long period of time.
This isn’t reddit.
Old habits. My bad. Corrected. I wish I could burn that word out of my mind
I’m going to disagree with you as someone with ADHD who is in therapy and does not take meds
I think it’s a very dangerous thing for you to compare meds with therapy because quite honestly therapy takes years for mental unraveling for you to just come to the conclusion that maybe you need to start applying yourself a little better
ADHD with mental health shortcomings can exacerbate the daily task into it a very arduous process.
While I understand the point of what you are saying and yes it does require some application in order to get the ball rolling, it’s more than just getting up off your ass. It’s unraveling the ego , and why you are there in the first place
I dont entirely disagree but unravelling the ego I think is a somewhat meaningless - I think you are referring to the inertia of your current state, which is largely emotional.
I’m not saying getting up off your ass. I’m saying that relative to each individual there is a first step, that might be “thinking about planning about getting off your ass” and then graduating to “planning to get off your ass” and graduating to “getting off your ass”.
Different people are at different stages, but accepting that ADHD is a disorder of emotional regulation, that can be changed with the correct approach.
Our Eagles are conditioned to be validated and caught up in consumerism much worse. Nowadays with social media I have to disagree that unraveling the ego is meaningless because quite honestly, if I’m being honest, it’s the ego that gets in the way of all forms of organizing
I do believe that in order to snap out of this you just need to kind of start getting yourself to work me. Personally. I use a Kobe mentality to the things I aspire to do. It’s very hard
But I do believe the ego unraveling is extremely essential to inner growth. How can you help anyone? How can you help the front line if you are not at peace with yourself? Think about it. This is one of the main issues we have in organizing spaces or just generally today throughout the world, we we all came from some form of generational trauma and that requires healing and that is done through unraveling
Ahoy mateys! Keep it chill - this is a memes community.
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Yep, and to help it somewhat I’ve been setting alarms. If I can’t get started and am stressing to do the thing, I’m presuming I won’t and just take time of till the next activity. That way I end up doing nothing, but not burnt out
That only really happens if there is no immediate threat of doom. If there is, I am the most productive person on the face of the Earth but only due to the sheer terror that results from last second procrastination.
if you leave ti to the last minute it will only take a minute
It’s super time efficient.
Yeah… homework was done 5 minutes before class starts…
“I can do it on the bus!”.
Reader, he could not…
Yes and it’s getting worse and worse every year.
I tend to get something done every day but my weekends get shot because it takes me so long. Im not diagnosed with adhd or anything else but I feel like my life is just a long string of being behind on getting things done.
But your brain does have hands. They are your hands. Your hands are wired directly to your brain.
And yes, there’s five things you would have to or want to do, but do not quite know which to start or how you should exactly to do them and you end up doing anything else you are confident with.
I used to chroncially be like this, it was awful. Somehow, somewhere, without outside help I flipped, and now Im organized, efficient and proactive. Marking this spot so I can think about it and come back when I think I know what changed.
You have to tell us, you know that right? I am waiting for this moment for 4 decades.
