Should have refused to let others decide your life for you.
From the other comment, it sounds like it’s working out, just not for the Dad.
I used to think it was really creepy and archaic, but an Indian friend of mine says that it was a real load off of her shoulders to just leave it up to her parents to put the work in, and she says she’s happy with the man they found for her. Still wouldn’t be for me, but I at least now see it as an acceptable option for people who want it. I doubt it’s a fun topic of discussion when the kid doesn’t want it but the parents do, but that’s not unlike already existing contested topics like career choice and grandkids.
So a tolerable roommate you have to have sex with occasionally?
That sounds like later stage marriage.
So kind of lazyness/complacency regarding obligations pressured by others. They’re basically describing solutions to a problem they shouldn’t have in the first place. Still seems shitty.
Well, yeah, in an ideal world a person should be able to pursue an education and a career and still have time to pursue romantic interests as well, but that’s not really the world we live in, at least not for a lot of people. If someone wants to really devote themselves to their career instead of spending time dating, and their parents want to handle the hunt for a good partner, it doesn’t sound like a bad arrangement so long as everyone’s happy.
Again, it’s not for me, and I’d imagine it’s not for a lot of people, but so long as everyone’s given a choice and this is what they choose, I think it’s fine. Yes, I’m sure not everyone is truly given a choice, but that would be the issue with this: not arranged marriages in general, but specifically the idea that a child must obey their parents regardless of their own aspirations.
It’s not always up to them, pal
Of course it is, that is part of becoming an adult, you get to say “no” to other people
It’s so easy to armchair quarterback other peoples’ lives, especially when they grew up in a different culture from your own.
When the product is different than advertised.
😭 Like dad you picked him knowing he was studying, living and working abroad why are you now complaining about him being Westernized (derogatory)
Do you get along with him tho? :) If your parents complain to much just tell them you move abroad if they don’t stop 😆
Yeah, he’s great.
Whoa—what an awesome if chaotic path to victory
Congratulations. Glad it’s working out for you.
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Controlling other peoples lives is cringe.
How exactly did your dad “arrange” your marriage? Sounds illegal.
Dad proposed marriage to the guy’s family. Guy’s family accepted. Guy and his family came to officially propose marriage. I accepted. We got married.
This sounds less like a classical arranged marriage and more like parents introducing their kids to each other.
I don’t know what classical arranged marriage is supposed to mean. This is the traditional form here in the Gulf. I think like many other Westerners in your head forced marriage and arranged marriage are one and the same. Common misconception.
Yep. I’m thinking of the archaic forced marriage. Women being property.
Your situation makes it seem like not a big deal. Probably happens in the US as well and just called “matching” or something.
Forced & arranged are 2 different things.
It’s fairly common in many different cultures and parts of the world to have arranged marriages. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage
