• 9point6@lemmy.world
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    Well, my wedding gifts are usually proportional to what I imagine the couple have already spent for me to be there.

    Someone who throws a wedding with accommodation and everything else all taken care of is going to get a bigger gift than one where I’m just invited to the evening do.

    I guess the invite cost something to send so I suppose their gift would probably be about 50p max, if I could even bring myself to send anything.

    Funnily if I wasn’t invited to a wedding of a friend for whatever reason and they didn’t send a card like this, I’d probably be more inclined to get a token gift as a congratulations anyway.

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      i went to a wedding once where the pastor took the whole hour-long ceremony to bash gayness

      then the ‘reception’ was breakfast lol

      followed by some lame “dating game” between the bride & groom vs the oldest couple in attendance

      no booze, no dancing

      any future invitations are going in the trash if any of the above elements are going to be involved

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          former coworkers. everyone was like um wtf you can’t be serious when they announced it. and just like everyone predicted, the marriage lasted less than a year. severest case of “you don’t see red flags when you’re wearing rose colored glasses” i’ve ever seen

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    I’m more offended by their misspelling of “accommodate” and lack of punctuation in the second sentence. What a terrible way to start their life together.

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    As much as we would like to congratulate the bride and groom, but we are too busy being kept in your hearts.

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    I was uninvited from my sister’s wedding. But I was told it was at a public venue, so I could come watch the ceremony from a distance and I could still send a wedding gift.

    I didn’t care about being uninvited. I was only upset that they made Dad call me. If you’re going to be like that at least have the balls to make the call yourself.

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    I wouldn’t have done this, but I do kinda get it.

    We had a 100 person wedding. Friends, close family, and Aunts/Uncles (no cousins, extended relatives). There definitely were people interested in giving us gifts even though they weren’t invited. I told them basically the same thing as this card. It was annoying having to field those requests at the same time as prepping for the wedding, so I could see why someone would send this card preemptively.

    I feel like it would only be trashy if you were really expecting money from these people.

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      Makes me wonder what we did wrong. We had a 20 person wedding. Immediate relatives only, parents grandparents and siblings plus their partners.

      I paid for everything, including an open bar. We got 1 gift from my wife’s grandparents and that was it.

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        You didn’t do anything wrong. We did a small wedding too and it was infinitely better than anything I could’ve hoped for with more people and that’s what really matters

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      Usually, if someone requests something that annoys me and I’m in a position to refuse, I just go ahead and refuse or outright disregard the request.

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    Honestly, I’d probably prefer getting this to a wedding invitation for most of the people I know. Of course I want to be at my brother’s wedding. But he’s already married, and I hope not to attend another until (ha!) my own

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    I wouldn’t send money. I would buy beer and play a video game instead.

    If we were close, I might send a fuck you card.

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    Instead of sending them money, I made a fake donation in their honor to The Human Fund, with its slogan “Money for People”.

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    I would send this reply - “As much as we would love to send you a wedding gift, we have been overwellmed in the upcoming months with wedding receptions that we have to attend and of course provide the happy couples gifts”

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    I keep reading that not as the venue doesn’t have enough space for everyone, but as the venue has banned certain people. I’m really hoping I’m wrong and it is a space issue.

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      "unfortunately the AI that trump tower uses to match paint swatches to skin color has determined you may not attend our wedding. Please enclose a 250 dollar money order for the bride and groom to use for their honeymoon in Moscow.

      … ICE has been alerted to your location

      Love and peace

      Kevin and Marsha"